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I’ve been pondering over the thought of how we fear to try anything different.  I don’t know if it’s for me or not? How will I know if I’m on the right track? I don’t know what I want to do.

Last week I facilitated ‘Decloaking and Living Authentically.’  In my opinion this is the first step to moving forward differently in your life.  A life of  your choosing.  If we move forward based on past habits, chances are we may be picking up momentum however we quickly discover that we’re exactly where we started.

If we don’t consciously choose something different, then how are we to gain the experience in the body to know whether or not something is right for us?   It’s simple.  Choose something, gain the experience (knowing in your body) and choose from that new standing point and move forward.

Experiencing is not something that happens in the intellect.  It takes place in the body.  We make things so difficult for ourselves when all it takes is to choose differently than from before.  And know, that it’s impossible to know what the outcome will be.  It’s impossible until you choose and move forward.

How often do I hear people ask, “How do you choose to do only the things that are meaningful to you?” Hmmm, is this a trick question?  It’s simple, I do.  I don’t worry about how other people perceive my choices because my business is none of their business and their business in none of mine.

I remember reading an incredible business article about, “Minding your business.” Of course when when I read it I smiled.  The bottom line was quite clear.  If you’re focusing on everyone else’s business, whose minding yours?  How is that different from your own personal life?  As long as you’re looking outside of yourself to see what others are or aren’t doing, be mindful and pay attention because it’s nothing more than a distraction that keeps you from getting on with your life.

Here’s another favorite of mine.  “You’re so lucky that you’re able to just do whatever you want”.  Hmmm, really?  Well let me share with you that, LUCK HAD ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING THAT I’M ‘EXPERIENCING RIGHT NOW.

I simply chose something different than what I was used to and discovered that ‘wow…the outcome was quite pleasant.’

Nothing to do but Be.  Breathe.  Be in the moment and choose in the moment what lights you up and move forward.

You won’t know what’s for you until you make a different choice.  Discover what it feels like in the body and then you’ll know whether or not you’ve made the right choice for yourSELF.  I suggest that you don’t ask someone else what’s right for you.  How would they know?  They’re not you.

I suggest that you, “Choose you- right here- right now-take a breath-listen to your body…and choose what feels right in the moment.”

Creating Space for Transformation and Evolution

Amy

I’ve been reading the memoir’s of a young woman who was institutionalized by her mother. The young woman turned to drugs, alcohol and whatever she could find to numb the pain of her experience.  Physically she didn’t have anything wrong with her, except she was turning to substance to numb the experiences that she was having.

There are those who could have a belief that they don’t have any health issues per se however, they don’t consider that the wine that they have every evening or the bottle for that matter,  has a great numbing affect.  Nor do they consider shopping a numbing affect.  The many things that we do as a society to numb what is taking place in our bodies is amazing.

Our bodies are incredible Living Organic Bio Processors.  Much like a computer if you wish except, we are living and evolve/manifest.  What we do have in common with computers though is something that I never considered until tonight when I was reading an article.  I found myself reflecting on different conversations that I’ve had over the past year or so.

I remember my friend Cathy asking me, “How do you always stay so present to yourself?”  My response was simple.  “It’s a matter of life or death.”  If I lie, then I’m not present to myself.  If I lie, the body remembers and the memory is held in the tissue of my body.  That memory could evolve/manifest into something that the medical society refers to as a ‘tumor.’

If you think of a computer that has tons and tons of information stored in it and someone ‘hacks’ into it and gives it different information, it crashes.  How are we so different?  When we don’t listen to our bodies and we lie to ourselves, eventually the body is going to have to ‘dump’ some of the information.  The information stored in the tissue which is dumped, are referred to as ‘dis-ease.’  The body will only go so far with you being untrue to yourself – to it.  We look to others for the answers because we no longer trust the information/impulses in the body when all we have to do is know, that the body never lies.  There is no intellect in the body.

We’re taught at a very young age not to trust ourselves.  Children know right from wrong because they listen to their bodies.  Adults are the ones that change the knowing that a child has in thier bodies.  It’s not a judgement rather it’s a very valuable awareness.

I work with clients who have been physically, mentally and sexually abused. For the most part, they share with me that even though they were sexually abused by their father that it wasn’t that bad.  However the fear they had of sharing the information with their mother’s, was what kept them silent.

These children grow up having kept secrets/lies, knowing the whole time that it was a lie and it didn’t feel right in their bodies and yet the alternative would have possibly been worse.  Children are beaten all the time and sometimes murdered by the individuals that should be creating a safe and loving environment for them.  The outcome is adults riddled with health issues.

Every response in the body is intelligent.  Something inside a child says, “I know what daddy is doing isn’t right but if I tell mommy she may beat me.  Or if I tell another adult they’ll think that I’m making it up.”  So children remain silent because for many reasons, it’s safer for them and they know.  But at what point in our adult lives do we speak up and out and say “No Longer?”

Children remember the abuse that they went through at the hands of their parents and their siblings.  I remember.  I would ask if they do but I know the answer.  CHILDREN REMEMBER.  It’s that simple.

Why is it that it seems so easy to lie and yet so difficult to tell the truth?  I guess years of cultural conditioning will do that to you.  Hmmm, that is the sad truth that we all need to embrace.  We need to start getting honest with ourselves and others.  In a breath, our lives can change.  We can evolve and manifest something magnificent or we can continue to lie and still evolve and manifest health issues.  Thank-you and I’ll go for door number one.

A computer can be fixed by someone who is knowledgeable about computers.  A computer is not a living organism like we are.  We’re not broken but we do may have an over loaded system that requires us to look within to consider something different.  There is no one outside of our bodies that can change or look at our experiences and process the information for us.  We have to do that ourSelves.

Honest – Open – Clear – Direct = Transformation ~ Evolution.  If we continue to live our lives based on someone else’s experience, we’ll never know what it’s like to live Fully Alive.  Life is an experience.  Experience it for yourSelf.

Creating Space for Transformation ~ Evolution

Amy

I realize that as I sit hear in my office space waiting for women to arrive, that I am one step closer to knowing that I AM Enough.

There was a realization today as thoughts  kept on flowing for me that I’m one step closer.  Hmmm, one step closer.  How does that feel in my body?  Wonderful and there is true magnificence in knowing that I’m not quite there yet.  Will I ever know?  Maybe, maybe not.  What I know is that there’s only one way for me to find out and that is by going forward and knowing that in each moment that I am present to mySelf, I become more in that breath.

I am in awe of my life in this moment.  I know that I have been truly excited before but in this very moment, I’m in awe.  I could have had tears a second ago, but nothing now.  That is how fast my body digests, processes and metabolizes the information.   Ahhhh, and now I know.

I AM ENOUGH!

I’m about to launch several programs that I didn’t know about until a few minutes ago.  They will be a compilation of everything that I have learned on this wonderful journey known as My Life.

Over 25 years of working with people in different capacities has given me the opportunity to learn things that I did not know before.  Volunteering and working with cancer patients in the Look Good Feel Better program for over eight years now.  Working with young women (actually little girls) while being a majorette in a band for over nineteen years.  Visiting with elderly  women in homes so that they knew someone cared about them.  Most of my life has been working with women.  Not until less than an hour ago did I reflect upon my journey of life to discover that I have so much to offer  others than I ever realized, by simply being me.

As my friend Naomi shared with me yesterday, I am stoked.  It almost goes without saying that there has been fire energy running through out my body for years.  Most of you can attest to that for at least a couple of years.  And today I stand present to mySelf and honor my truth and know, it has been years.

Not until I knew that fire is about transformation and nothing to be feared, not until then was I able to transform who I AM in the world and Evolve from there.

Right now in this moment, I AM ENOUGH.  And it a breath I know that transformation and evolution is a way of being for me.

And that’s it.  I’m done with writing and I feel this incredible sense of Enough-ness within the center of my being.

Mahalo to all of you who have been part of this journey with me.

And now, I Create New – For MySelf and Others

Amy

In conversation with a very good friend of mine (and I have many), I called Sandy and shared thoughts with her.

In a breath, life opens and expands and we evolve in an amazing way.  Of course evolution is always amazing and yet when it happens unplanned, unannounced, of your choosing, that is as truly amazing.

Life can become amazing in so many ways.  It’s not until we’re willing to claim our own true magnificence that magic happens not only for us but everyone around us.  I’m still learning this very thing. 

In a breath, life opens and expands and new life is breathed into our ‘being.’

A willingness to invest in Self.  A Willingness to reclaim and redefine life – our life.  A willingness to discover the more that you are in the world.  Your world - the one that you’ve created and shine in by simply being.

In a breath, life opens and expands.  Transformation and Evolution happen in a breath.  It’s important to pay attention to when you hold your breath.  Consider what happens or doesn’t…when you hold your breath.

Breathing is in deed good.

Amy

It seems that during the past week I’ve been engaging with women and the conversation seems to always comes down to monetary views of investing.  It would seem that we want more on our returns than what we’re willing to invest in ourselves.  It’s a rather sad state of ‘affairs’ if you ask me.

If we could only get past looking at the dollar signs, what we would discover would amaze us.  Of course I speak from my own personal experience.  When I had concerns about money, I created those experiences in my life.  As I relaxed into the thought of money as nothing more than energy or an exchange for something, my life started to change.  Abundance had a whole new meaning as well. 

I remember having a conversation with my husband about success.  I shared that there are many meanings for ’success.’  If we get stuck in a monetary meaning of success, I get curious as to whether we’ll ever have enough and do we keep on wanting more than what we currently have?  I’ve been at seminars, meeting and all kinds of stuff.  I’ve read books, listened to CD’s and everything is about the size of your house, and showing others that ‘they too’ can achieve success and have the more expensive car and the cottage.

These conversations leave me shaking my head.  Clearly, I’m in a different ’space’ and time.  I smiled and said to my husband, “I’m quite successful.”  In fact, I have an abundant life in so many ways and yet not in the terms or views of the general public.

I’m happier in my life over the past couple of years.  I have so many meaningful people in my life.  I’ve been connected to mySelf for the past couple of years.  I wake up happy every day.  I meet wonderful people and can see the magnificence in each and every one of them.  I don’t seem to see the clouds in the same way that I used to.  Every day there is something new for me to discover about mySelf.  How magical is my life?

Yes, Success has many meanings.  My meaning is absolutely perfect for me and I am very successful and the key to success is simple and easy. 

I’m great at being me.  And as long as I stay honest and true to mySelf, success will always be.     And that is what I know that it takes to have success in life.  Honest, Open, Clear and Direct.

RIG everyone that you meet. (see Louise’s blog

RIGing – a powerful alternative to ‘love’

http://louiselebrun.wordpress.com/2008/12/

I started investing in mySelf just over two years by reclaiming my life.  I did this when I met an absolutely wonderful woman that could see who I was in the world, without even knowing my past history.  Hmmm, obviously she saw something in me that I didn’t know existed in me myself.  And Louise was key for me.  Who she is made a difference in my life and the body of knowledge that she created, makes reclaiming and redefining life quite easy.(louiselebrun.com)

  Invest in yourSelf and Never Lose Interest…in your Own Evolution

Creating Space for…

 Transformation and Evolution

Amy

Since I’ve been working on writing a book on parenting, there’s tons of stuff surfacing for me.  Not so much about my past rather every conversation that I have with everyone. 

Adults riddled with health issues.  Nothing more and nothing less than information stored in the body.  I sit here appalled by the fact that we as a society don’t like things to be messy so we make up stories for our children and lie to them when it suites us.  How many times do our children have to be physically, mentally and sexually abused before we lift our heads and say, “ENOUGH.”  Not my child no longer. 

Stop and reflect upon what it was like for you growing up and being parented.  Was it fun?  Did you feel like you were being ridiculed sometimes by the adults in your life?  Did you wish that when you spoke of something which caused you pain or fear that someone would believe you and hold you?  Pay Attention because chances are you’re an adult reading this and you remember.

How naive are we to make up the stories that our children don’t remember because they’re too little.  Do you remember?  Right here, right now.  Do you remember?  Well I do.  And so do the women and men that come to me and all they want is for someone to actually listen to them and for their words to be heard and not have them fall on deaf ears.

Death and Decay.  I remember a friend of mine speaking of death and decay and it’s very much what I’m sensing right now.  Our children are getting health issues and they’re starting younger now than they were before.  Or is it because I’m older now and am awake and can no longer look at another human being as not being intelligent no matter what their age.

“My child is well behaved,” I heard a woman say.  “They know when to talk and when it’s not acceptable.”  So I get curious now and ask the bigger questions and I no longer care whether or not I offend someone or not.  Is your child well behaved or are they living in fear of the outcome if they don’t follow a status quo that possible you have already created for them?

I can no longer  be silent or worry about other’s opinions.  A woman who suspected that her daughter was being sexually abused by her husband still sends the child there.  Great, the woman has divorced her husband because she could no longer live with him for many reasons and yet still sends the child back.  It’s damn right ludicrous.  I sit here and am disgusted at the fact that we teach our children just to be so accepting of everything.  Why?  Because we don’t want messy lives.

My body is vibrating and I want to scream.  Instead I pause and take deep breaths.  A wonderful day, a wonderful weekend and yet all of this comes up for me.  And not out of ‘nowhere.’  I received an email about a child breaking out in hives.  Based on what I know without needing a lot of details, the child could be in harms way.  I connect and send a message in hopes that the mother will respond. 

The frustration for me lies in the fact that I cannot force another individual to awaken from their coma.  I can only put myself out there in a capacity of creating space and sharing who I am with them and what I have discovered.  The tears are now flowing.  I know that I am only responsible for my life.  I know that I cannot tell another human being to do what I believe is right.  And so the tears flow for the children whose parents choose to stay in a coma.

I know of some incredible women who are waking up and have awakened to the genius of who they are.  They hear their children.  They create space for their children.  Their children can speak the truth of their experience without being ridiculed and being made feel as though they are small, puny and insignificant.

When your children say, “Mr. so and so stuck his tongue in my mouth.”  I suggest you listen to your child and not force a child into a situation that they don’t want to be in.  Why do we find it so hard to believe what are children are saying.  Or is it that we don’t want to face our past because we didn’t know how to deal with it then and as an adult still don’t know?

The following points are from the Declaration of Evolution by Intention™

And are also the way in which I move through my world. I suggest that you go to the link provided and take a look at them.  What comes up for you?

http://www.wel-systems.com/declaration.htm

History (the past) is irrelevant as a guide to creating the future

I am critical to making a difference.

It’s not too late.

I am up to the challenge

There is an urgency to engage

If not me, then who?

My world is a safe and abundant place.

I am not alone

When I engage, a difference occurs

My power is in the size and courage of my questions.

Letting Go of the Past And…Creating Space for Evolution and Transformation

Amy

After engaging in conversation yesterday with a magnificent new woman in my life and after reading an email from her this morning, I realize that I have this huge desire for Evolution and Transformation.  Neither need take very long to transpire in any one’s life…Not unless of course you say so.  

My willingness to stand tall in who I am in the world – In my world, is what I believe makes a difference for others.  I have this incredible vibration of ‘giddee up and lets go,’ and women respond to it. 

What I notice more and more is that women love being around me.  It goes well beyond ‘positive thinking’ it’s more about the contagion that I am and the vibration which is me.  I’m totally excited every second of every day about simply being me. 

Things have been changing for me moment to moment, breath to breath.  I’m becoming aware of different things now that I hadn’t before.  For instance, I’m writing about things that are no longer my reality such as being worthy or Who I am makes a difference.  In the way that I move through my life now,  I already know that I’m worthy and that I make a difference however it’s important for me to recognize that new women coming into my life don’t share the same reality.  So what I’ve noticed is I’m now writing about things that will hold a resonance for them which will create space for  them to move forward differently.  If I choose to write from where I am now in my life, chances are they may not move forward and of course I’m making it all up because I haven’t spoken to ‘them.’    What I do know is that the new women in my life are going back and reading my earlier blogs and they do resonate for them.  I need to pay attention to everything in my life.

My life used to be only about my own personal Evolution and Transformation and now…what lights me up is witnessing other’s Evolution and Transformation.  So I still put mySelf first and here’s the wonderful thing about this, I Evolve by simply ‘being me’ and sharing with others everything that I’ve learned and have moved through in my life to present day.  And tomorrow I will be more than who I am today so there will constantly be new information to share with others. 

I can relate to women who are just starting to consider life differently, because I have been there.  Maybe not in the ‘exact’ same way (because my experience is unique to me as is  theirs to them), but I have experienced something similar.  I have already walked the path, of the journey that they may just be starting.    So as I look into the face of another woman, I can reflect upon the my journey and share my experience with her. 

  Who I am makes a difference and only (my perception), if I share it with others.  If I keep it to mySelf I will become puny and so will my life.  I have no space in my life for incremental change.  I tried that already and it didn’t work out very well.    So slow, incremental changes do not light me up in the least bit.

I want to live LARGE, I want to have FUN, I want to discover something new about mySelf everyday.  And I do…BECAUSE I SAY SO. 

Have a wonderful day…

Letting Go of the Past And…Creating New Space to ‘Be’

Amy