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I can remember the days when I used to hate flying.  I’d say up until about 3 years ago, I probably flew about 3 times in my life.  My have things changed.

The past couple of months have been busy for me and I’m absolutely loving it.  4 trips in 2 months and I AM Elated.  I’m often asked if I’m traveling for business or pleasure.  The answer is always the same and it’s always yes.  My life is my business and it’s always a pleasure.

My life is always about playing and exploring what else is possible for me in my life.  So as I venture forth into the unknown, I share my discoveries with other women.  Sometimes I hear, “wow…I could never do that.”

Well, don’t be so sure.    I am in the business of sharing with women how to create a life of your choosing.  A life that says if that’s what you want then why not create it?  It’s simple and it’s effortless.  O.K.  I said it’s simple and effortless however it’s not always easy.  The bottom line is the good, the bad and the ugly is all of our creation so really…’It’s all good.’  Life is simple when you recognize that it’s a learning experience and sometimes the experience is right there in plain view and sometimes it takes a couple of breaths before you recognize it however the learning experience is always there.  Remembering to breathe of course is of the utmost importance.

So obviously I’m not a bird however since I’m not, I do know that there are many ways to get from point A to B.  Whether it’s traveling or my life, I like to take the direct approach.  I even consider my flights and who I’ll choose to fly with.  I am not dedicated to Air Canada, Westjet, United or any other airlines for that matter, I am however committed to me and my personal evolution.  Price is another thing that doesn’t dictate what I choose, which would have been a motivational factor before along with the airlines.

If I can get a cheaper flight  and I’ll save $75 and it will take me 2 hours longer to get there, you wanna bet I’ll be investing that $75 to get me to my destination quicker.  My life and time is valuable and it’s not to be wasted…it’s to be ‘invested.’

There have been many times in my life when I didn’t think that I was worth the $75 or the new pair of shoes or whatever.  Now I know that my life is of my choosing and I am driving my own bus (or flying my own plane).  How I choose to drive and reach my destination is entirely up to me and no one can tell me any longer what is right for me.  Why?  Because they don’t really know cause they don’t live in my body.

No matter what is put in front of me I get to choose how I engage.  I am mindful in how I decide by considering my internal cues in my body.  So if I’m flying somewhere and I have the option to get there faster, it may well be that I take a more direct flight.  If however I’ve been so busy that I haven’t allowed myself to slow down, it may well be that I take a flight with stop overs just so I can have some time to myself.  It’s simple and it’s of my choosing.

So for me right now….I don’t have wings and I can tell you that it won’t be the thing that stops me from moving forward.  Air Canada has wings and for an investment…they’re willing to share them with me.  Now that’s a friend. 

As I venture forth into the unknown and loving every minute of it (well most of it), I’m happy to be your friend and to share with you what else is possible for you in your life.

Have a Wonderful Weekend!  

Amy

There’s nothing I like more than considering things from a different perspective.  Today what keeps coming into my awareness is school and the grading system.  What is it really about and is it about nothing more than….’Measuring Up’ to someone else’ perspective along with fitting in and maintaining the Status Quo?

My daughter seems to feel that if she doesn’t get a certain grade/mark, than she is less than the others who have a higher mark.  What kind of message are we sending our children and are the people educating them fully conscious in their own lives?  Ouch!  I’m not dissing all teachers because I know that there are some amazing ones out there, however I’m asking the question because I too have a school age child.

Imagine a scenario where ‘our’ children are in school all day with teachers who aren’t conscious or present to themselves?  Now imagine at the end of the day when these children come home and we’re too tire to be consciously engaging with them?  Now throw on top of all of that, the knowing that we haven’t a clue as to what is going on in our child’s lives all day.

Children growing mentally, physically and sexually and for the most part I’m going to make up the story that a lot of this growing goes on out of our awareness.  What happens next is we wonder why our children are receiving lower grades and we only look at it from one perspective.  “You’re not measuring up and you’re going to flunk the course.”  Is it really about flunking the course or getting that lower grade or is it about something else?

As I engage in conversation with young adults (13-15), I become aware of how important it is for me to stay present to myself so that when my daughter comes home at the end of the day, she has someone who is connected to themselves to engage with.

I could say that I sit in disbelief by some of the things that I hear however it is not in disbelief that I hear the words flowing from the mouth of a young person.  Their truth is real and sometimes it causes me to gasp and as much as I’d like to say that the gasp comes from disbelief, it doesn’t.

I view myself as being an open person and I can also share with you that I am naive as a parent to the goings on in a school.

I’m 44 years old and I do not remember high-school being as it is now.  However, as I reflect upon my upbringing I easily make up the story that I was totally oblivious to what what going on all around me.  In a constant state of denial is what I learned.  Close your eyes to what you’re witnessing and it won’t be happening or it will go away.  Oh yes!!!  Pretend it didn’t happen.

If pretending that things didn’t really happen worked, why are teen suicides on the rise.  As I write the words my eyes fill with tears.  I must stay present to myself so that I can truly be present to my daughter.

In an abc news release, it was clear to me that our children are capable of pretending and may well be really good at it because we’ve taught them well.  I am no different, in that my life has only changed during the past few years however, I am present now and am capable at making a difference in my life as well as my daughters.

Amongst some of the young people being interviewed one said, “I know that this sounds like a cliche, however she always walked around and seemed very happy.”

How often do we tell our children that we know what it’s like for them when we truly can’t unless we lived in their body?

If we were to consider a decrease in grades or marks as a signal that something has shifted in our children’s life, then  maybe we could sit down and ask them if they need to talk about something.  I am very clear with my daughter.  If she needs to talk about something that is going on at school or in any other aspect of her life, the deal is that I listen without judgment and DO NOT COMMENT and only offer suggestions from a different perspective if it is asked of me.’

School can stress me out and I’m not even there any longer.  Imagine what it’s like for our children?

As school draws to an end, the air becomes lighter and breathing is just a little bit easier.

Have a Great Year End at School.

Amy

There’s nothing I like more than considering things from a different perspective.  Today what keeps coming into my awareness is school and the grading system.  What is it really about and is it about nothing more than….’Measuring Up’ to someone else’ perspective along with fitting in and maintaining the Status Quo?

My daughter seems to feel that if she doesn’t get a certain grade/mark, than she is less than the others who have a higher mark.  What kind of message are we sending our children and are the people educating them fully conscious in their own lives?  Ouch!  I’m not dissing all teachers because I know that there are some amazing ones out there, however I’m asking the question because I too have a school age child.

Imagine a scenario where ‘our’ children are in school all day with teachers who aren’t conscious or present to themselves?  Now imagine at the end of the day when these children come home and we’re too tire to be consciously engaging with them?  Now throw on top of all of that, the knowing that we haven’t a clue as to what is going on in our child’s lives all day.

Children growing mentally, physically and sexually and for the most part I’m going to make up the story that a lot of this growing goes on out of our awareness.  What happens next is we wonder why our children are receiving lower grades and we only look at it from one perspective.  “You’re not measuring up and you’re going to flunk the course.”  Is it really about flunking the course or getting that lower grade or is it about something else?

As I engage in conversation with young adults (13-15), I become aware of how important it is for me to stay present to myself so that when my daughter comes home at the end of the day, she has someone who is connected to themselves to engage with.

I could say that I sit in disbelief by some of the things that I hear however it is not in disbelief that I hear the words flowing from the mouth of a young person.  Their truth is real and sometimes it causes me to gasp and as much as I’d like to say that the gasp comes from disbelief, it doesn’t.

I view myself as being an open person and I can also share with you that I am naive as a parent to the goings on in a school.

I’m 44 years old and I do not remember high-school being as it is now.  However, as I reflect upon my upbringing I easily make up the story that I was totally oblivious to what what going on all around me.  In a constant state of denial is what I learned.  Close your eyes to what you’re witnessing and it won’t be happening or it will go away.  Oh yes!!!  Pretend it didn’t happen.

If pretending that things didn’t really happen worked, why are teen suicides on the rise.  As I write the words my eyes fill with tears.  I must stay present to myself so that I can truly be present to my daughter.

In an abc news release, it was clear to me that our children are capable of pretending and may well be really good at it because we’ve taught them well.  I am no different, in that my life has only changed during the past few years however, I am present now and am capable at making a difference in my life as well as my daughters.

Amongst some of the young people being interviewed one said, “I know that this sounds like a cliche, however she always walked around and seemed very happy.”

How often do we tell our children that we know what it’s like for them when we truly can’t unless we lived in their body?

If we were to consider a decrease in grades or marks as a signal that something has shifted in our children’s life, then  maybe we could sit down and ask them if they need to talk about something.  I am very clear with my daughter.  If she needs to talk about something that is going on at school or in any other aspect of her life, the deal is that I listen without judgment and DO NOT COMMENT and only offer suggestions from a different perspective if it is asked of me.’

School can stress me out and I’m not even there any longer.  Imagine what it’s like for our children?

As school draws to an end, the air becomes lighter and breathing is just a little bit easier.

Have a Great Year End at School.

Amy