Letting go of the fight
It’s amazing how many people are voicing their opinions because it’s their freedom of speech. Their right to do so.
Call it whatever you want. Ranting, voicing, fighting for a cause and what I know is that it’s nothing more than a distraction that has been created by you yourself to keep you away from looking at your own life. While you’re merrily engaging in the ‘fight’ for whatever cause, you can choose to ignore your own life and what is going on or isn’t going on in it.
I remember engaging with a magnificent women who was indeed (in her view) fighting for the rights of her child in the school. The classes should have been smaller. The clearly said that……and you can fill in the blank. Unfortunately while she was engaging for ‘the cause’ her child who was quite happy with her school and class was possibly at risk of being ‘kicked out’ of a school that she loved. Now if you’re fighting for your child because ‘injustice’ is being done, fine however if you’re fighting your own ‘unprocessed’ demons/information then pay attention to what the cause really is.
I remember suggesting that she let go of the fight. She did consider what I had suggested and then did let go of one fight only to pursue yet another one.
Another woman tells me she’s so angry and frustrated with how things are going in her life and she is clearly annoyed how others are making her feel this way. Why shouldn’t I blame other people when it’s clearly ‘their’ fault?
My question is when do you let go of the fight and maybe consider that everything that is happening or not happening for that matter is because of the choice that you have or haven’t made in your life?
Claiming responsibility for our lives sometimes really isn’t a pretty thing to do. And I know because I had to. We can always look at a good cause to fight for. We can always shift the blame and never take on responsibility. We can always look outside of ourselves and point our fingers at others but best we realize that the finger that we’re pointing is attached to ‘our’ bodies and we may be looking outside of ourselves because we don’t want to look ‘within’ for the answers. I remember hearing long time ago that, “If you can ask the question, more than likely you have the answer.”
I used to so easily get ‘caught up’ in other peoples ‘miseries’ because I was quite happy to be caught up in my own. Now things have changed and I know that whatever comes my way I have created for mySelf as nothing more than an opportunity to choose differently. If I continue to choose the same thing constantly, then I’ll constantly end up with the same results. How can me making choices be anyone else’s fault?
Life is simple and it isn’t always easy. Sometimes I smile as others look at my life and say, ‘You’re so lucky with the way things have happened for you.’ I’m not lucky. I have clearly made choices that have created what I’ve wanted in my life. And…sometimes when I forget who I am I make choices based on the past and the outcome is less than admirable for me. Then I take a deep breath, remember who I am and choose according to the impulse in my body. What makes me smile and happy to be me. Not ‘Gee I wonder what is going to frustrate and annoy me,’ and make a choice based on that.
If your life isn’t what you’re looking for, then choose differently. I will not feel sorry for you or be your shoulder to cry on. However I will remind you of Who You Are when you forget Who You Are. I will never feel sad that you’ve made choices that weren’t right for you. Who am I too tell you what to choose when I’m not you and have no idea what it is that you need to move through in your life.
As long as I remember who I AM in the world and honor the impulses in my body, I will be here for you… to Respect you, have Integrity and Generosity of spirit for you and never will I ‘pity’ you. I know that everyone I meet is magnificent and is equally capable of having magnificence in their lives. As much as my life is wonderful and would love everyone to experience it for themselves, I cannot want for you more than what you want or are willing to create for yourself in your life. You need to reflect on your life and sometimes to create what you want, you need to Let Go of the Fight. Whether that fight is with others or yourself, consider letting go.
Creating Space to Consider Your Life Differently
Amy
