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A few days ago I was faced with something that very well could have been a missed opportunity for myself and a great friend of mine.  Let me share. 

The way I move through my world, I know that I create opportunities in my life to learn from them.  Sometimes it seems that the answer may clearly be a ‘no,’ and other times I believe that the opportunity is presented to see what else I can create when faced with ‘the obvious’ outcome that would end up for me as a, ‘missed opportunity.’  What I discovered for myself on Friday was, “Where there’s a maybe, there’s a yes.”  

The obvious was presented to me on Friday when a package didn’t arrive which a I really wanted for Sunday.  (Notice that I said ‘wanted’ – no needed).  So what could I possibly do when I didn’t have the information to create what was in that delivery?  Well, I discovered that my whole body was telling me that there was a yes to be had.  At first I sat and let this feeling rumble through my body.  How was I to create something when the information was clearly not of my own creation.  The information belonged to someone else.  But wait a minute.  Where there’s a will, there’s a yes.  And here’s the thing.  I needed to be willing to push myself and work for what I wanted or it wasn’t going to happen.  

So in-spite of a friend of mine preparing to meet with a group of women within a 30 minute time frame, I called her.  In-spite of the fact that she didn’t pick up her business line, I emailed her.  In-spite of the fact that I wasn’t getting a hold of her, I sent an email to her partner.  Then, I sat and waited.  I remember looking at my computer screen willing it to have a message sent to me.  And nothing happened.  As the minutes ticked by I could feel my body pulsing.  There was this huge excitement that I had found a way around the obvious ‘no’ that I was presented with.  Now what?  I found a way and what was I going to allow myself to do to create the yes. 

Well, I had one phone number left to call. If that’s the only thing standing between me and a possible ‘missed’ opportunity then I did the only thing I knew how.  It was time to turn the no into a yes and I made the call.  What took place after that was by no means easy and  the end result was no missed opportunity and I ended up creating other opportunities for myself in the progress.

How easy would it have been for me to just ‘allow’ a no to happen.  And trust me, it was an obvious no  because the package didn’t arrive.  And at the end of the day, I celebrated who I am in the world today because I know that I can make anything happen if I choose to.  And I know that maybe somewhere out there, there’s a no that’s a no but how do I know that until I create an opportunity for myself to change things around?

I know that things have changed for me.  I was more accepting before of what was being presented to me.  In this scenario, I would have accepted the obvious and been disappointed but gee what else was there for me to do?  Well I know now that when presented with what could possibly be a no or disappointment, I have an opportunity to change it.  And, what am I willing to do or what will I allow myself to do, to create a different outcome.  Life/business doesn’t have to be difficult and it’s not always easy and guess what – Sometimes you even have to work for it. 

It would have been so easy to just accept the fact that the package didn’t arrive on time and call it a day and that clearly isn’t an option for me anymore.  “Oh well, too bad.  – Well it wasn’t meant to be.”  Well…I beg to differ.  I created the perfect opportunity for myself to go the limit…and…on my holodeck of life, is their any limit?  I’d say no because otherwise I’m limiting myself. 

How willing are you ‘not’ to accept the life that has been so called handed to you?  For years going through life I would have thought that I had no other option because it was just the way things were.  Well bull pucky to that.  I just wasn’t ready to see what I could create for myself.  Wasn’t ready…or…wasn’t willing?  Hmmm, I wonder what it was?  And what I know now is that it doesn’t matter.  I can’t (and wouldn’t anyways) go back to the past to beat myself up but I can stay present in the here and the now and choose ways of creating a meaningful life.

So when handed with missed opportunities, maybe it’s best to allow yourself not to be so accepting.  Be bold, be outrageous, dare to be seen and frigging well dare to create things for yourself while others are only contemplating change.  I’m tired of being polite and waiting to be asked if I’d like a second helping.  Thank-you very much…and…I’m still not done with the first helping.  The first helping would be helping myself create for myself.  You see, if you wait to be asked, it just may not happen.

No one asked me on Friday, “Gee Amy, what do you think…if anything – could be done to change the outcome that has been presented to you?”  No, I just did it. 

Life doesn’t have to be hard and it isn’t always easy AND…sometimes you just may have to work for it.

What are you willing to do to create the life/business/family environment/health whatever, that you desire?  Or, are you just going to accept what you’ve been handed and wait for someone to offer you a second serving/helping or are you going to boldly reach across and not apologize for getting/creating what you truly want in life?

Letting Go of The Past AND…Growing Forward

Amy